From now through May 11, you can use this link to get the audio version of my book Neuroqueer Heresies for 50% off!

#books #audiobooks #neuroqueer #neurodiversity #neurodivergence #queer #autism #autistic #psychology #cognition #consciousness #bodymind

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New academic publication!

The Elgar Encyclopedia of Queer Studies includes a chapter by me on Neuroqueer Theory.

Elgar's academic tomes are good but absurdly expensive; I recommend pirating this one as an act of queer subversion.

#queer #neuroqueer #lgbtq #academia #neurodiversity

https://www.e-elgar.com/shop/usd/elgar-encyclopedia-of-queer-studies-9781803922096.html

Some people are so _poisonous_ that not even understanding them is an effective _antidote_.

I'm against the death penalty out of principle. This article goes exactly into the ambiguity of why: why do we grant anyone the authority to end a life?

https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2025/03/autism-idaho-university-capital-murder-defense.html

#neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neuroqueer #ADHD #actuallyADHD #Autism #autistic #actuallyAutistic #AuDHD #actuallyAuDHD @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

I've tried to put my most recent thoughts in order and write a little something. As almost always, it's written out of instinct, just letting my fingers do the work, without the need to intellectualize. I'm not sure anymore of what a coming out is and is not, so many I've had during this last year, so take it as you wish. It's intimate, that's for sure. Enjoy.

https://nerio-fenix.postcard.page/posts/trans

Now available on YouTube, an #OnlineAutscape2025 “More Autistic Joy” presentation:

On the 7th of February at 20:00 GMT/UTC, Jorik Mol, “professionally autistic”, presented “Now I wanna think about all the good times – The joys of Breaking the Boundaries”.

Watch now at: https://youtu.be/88-EGSq_dmg

Slides with clickable read-along links: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1qEl3c4O8bVsB-oJ9lhLi-PCbRkV6Fbq6zZtx29cCOjk/edit#slide=id.g32b2dc19ab3_0_274

“Jorik's first book of 2025 is Breaking the Boundaries, describing his experiences as a lived experience mentor of autistic higher education students. These stories highlight the particular joys of being neuroqueer and finding one's community, gender joy, the joy of art, the joy of hyperfocus and the joy of fighting the good fight.”

I have a work social media persona. My "worksona". It's who I represent as on LinkedIn and also on here.

I also have an authentic social media persona. It's another account on another server under an alias. An anonymous alias.

Why does this discrepancy exist? Because I talk about lived experiences, values, and positions on my second account that are stigmatized by society. Mental health. Neurodivergence. Gender. #FuckTheSystem.

My "worksona" is not me. It's a construct I shaped to maximize my chances by allowing me to harness conditional privilege: mainly that I'm _read_ as a white assumed cisgender, neurotypical, heterosexual, able-bodied man. But it's a mask. It means I'm keenly aware of the discrepancy in privilege that is granted based on how one is perceived.

I've been slowly incorporating more authenticity into my "worksona" but the sad truth is that there's still a wide chasm between who I really am around the people I trust and who I am in a professional context. There is literally only a single person who knows the full me and also knows me in real life. Everyone else gets a filtered version. Why? Stigma. Stigma that's assigned to layers of my identity I have no control over.

This is what privilege is about. Chances are that if your "public persona" aligns closely with your authentic self that you benefit from a whole lot of privilege (or that you're a #neuroqueer rebel; I see you and applaud you). And to the white men in my followers: this is what people talk about when they say you have privilege. The insidious truth is that it's _invisible_ to you because you probably don't know anything else. But there are many people around you who just _pretend_ to look and act like you.

I am one of the people who pretend.

I've come to understand that my main motivation to keep going at the moment is very simple: #spite.

I'm weird. Like really fucking weird. I'm #AuDHD. I'm queer. I'm also #plural (meaning it's not just me in my own fucking head). I'm weird. Like really fucking weird.

And you know what? That's *okay*. It's okay to be weird. Who is even the judge of that? Is there a "weird police"? It's being made illegal in parts of the world to be weird, but by whom? White old men.

Fuck them. Fuck them sideways. Fuck them all the ways. Fuck them. I'm very fucking weird by society's standards *and that is okay*. -Vox

#neurodivergent #neuroqueer #ADHD #actuallyADHD #Autism #autistic #actuallyAutistic #plural #oppression #supremacy @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

Nova Seilcheag, the Neuroqueering Snail on meditation and wellbeing.

#Neuroqueer #FindWhatWorksForYou! #NeuroqueeringWellbeing

I don't know how to develop trust with someone if I don't understand why they do what they do. This is probably why I have such a hard time trusting neurotypical individuals.

The same applies when hurt happens. I need to understand the why behind the hurt to reestablish trust.

The sad truth is that - for whatever reason - many folks are not willing to explain their actions. My assumption: they often don't know themselves why they do what they do, so all you get are bullshit post-hoc rationalizations.

Unleash the fury within you. Rise from the ashes like a phoenix.

They *will* knock us down. And we will defy them by getting up again. And again. And again. And again. And again.

Shout as they silence us. Access your rage and defy the odds. Hold your head high and resist. Don't play by their rules. Break them and play dirty.

Let's be real: not all of us are going to make it. But we as a community will make it. They feel emboldened now but they have no idea how much fight there is still left in us. We will prevail.

It's only over when the last of us lose hope. Rest assured that I will scream from the rooftops as long as blood is running through my veins. I got you. This is a promise. And to some it is a threat.

Representation matters. It took me 30 years to realize that I'm queer. To realize that I'm neurodivergent. The only thing I knew was what I saw in the media: white cis-heteronormative neurotypical-coded relationships.

Until I learned about alternative life models the thought never crossed my mind that I could be different.

Sure, some things were hard. Surprisingly hard. And I never really vibed with most of the things my male peers liked. I was often at the fringes of social circles. But surely I'm just quirky!

And now that my enby AuDHD weirdo ass finally feels like *things make sense* all I can really say is: bruh, why the fuck did it take me 30 years to figure this shit out?

The answer? Lack of representation.

Representation matters.

How does a contend life for people like me look like? Fuck if I know. Not like I saw this shit modeled on TV! So DIY it is. But some guardrails here and there would be nice, from time to time.

Somehow a young white tech bro found my profile and requested to follow me. I vet every follower and so I was immediately sceptical when I saw a non-critical toot with a picture of Trump.

Obviously I straight up hit them with "what do you think about Trump and Musk?".

I kid you not, their answer was: "Why should I think about them?"

The irony of them "follow request"ing me mere minutes after tooting this:

https://tech.lgbt/@alexocado/113896805317429796

#trauma #neurodivergent #queer #bigotry #neuroqueer #neurosupremacy #minority #marginalized #ADHD #actuallyADHD #autism #plurality #actuallyAutistic @neurodiversity @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

This goes out to everyone who invalidates people after they were vulnerable by being open about their pain:

Fuck you

(The more privileged you are the better you are not pulling this shit, or I'll personally rip you a new one.)

#trauma #neurodivergent #queer #bigotry #neuroqueer #neurosupremacy #minority #marginalized #ADHD #actuallyADHD #autism #actuallyAutistic @neurodiversity @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

Years ago, I’ve seen a phrase saying that some people always remember that “I am not like others”, but always forget that “Others are not like me”.

For #neuroqueer me, the first one is because, well, the society just doesn’t let me forget: I am always reminded that I am weird, wrong, not adequate, not appropriate etc
The second one, I suppose, is firstly because of exposure: #neurodivergency usually runs in the family - plus it’s more likely to be surrounded by somewhat relatable people, so #neurodivergent traits are seen as more common, and, secondly, because of innate human trait to see oneself as a baseline, to measure the world in relation to ourselves.

For me, that second thing makes it sometimes hard to believe that the things represented in the culture as normal and common are actually real:
- Wow, guys, you have your real selves? How do you know it’s not just another mask?
- No, it can’t be that loud music in shopping malls is not overwhelming for someone!
- I’m sure, that spontaneous love-at-the-first-sight is totally made up by poets and writers!
- Why would they even care about that person’s gender, it doesn’t matter?

And, from time to time, it would create some common dismissive phrases to raise as a center of doubt:
- Isn’t everyone having the same problems? Do NT people actually exist and are not just the same NDs like me, just masking better, with NT stereotype being nothing more than just a fairy tale made by exploitive society everyone is chasing hopelessly?
- Isn’t everyone pan by nature and just putting themselves into certain frames according to societal expectations?
- Doesn’t everyone just decide first that they want to fall in love with this particular person - based on their merits or potential candidates availability, and work towards feeling something later, and all those crazy spontaneous love stories being just late justifications of bad choices?
- Doesn’t everyone sometimes have dreams about having a different kind of body?
… and so on

The worst thing is, that despite knowing how ridiculous such doubts are, despite knowing all of the reasoning and all, part of me will still often have this doubts - because it’s not about actual reason, it’s much more about that basic instinct of having yourself as the origin, keeping all the coordinates relative to yourself.

Do you guys sometimes have these doubts about ‘maybe I am not so different after all, and others are just masking better?’ Are you also sometimes frustrated ‘It can’t be that some people actually do that’? Which are the things that you stumble upon most?
@actuallyautistic

I don't think there could have been a better time for this to land in my feed.

This event had my (free) sign-up at "queer joy," but that became "here take my money" based on Petra Vega's session title:

"Queer as in fuck you: how to joyfully disrupt the status quo"

LGBTQIA+ friends and family needing a little bit of community support and activation -- I'll "see" you there.

https://findrc.co/queerjoy

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #neuroqueer #queer @lgbtqia

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