Practical thing for do for fight triad of abuse/rape culture and fascism?
- believe survivor/victim and support
- foster athmosphere of respect of boundaries, limits, feelings, needs and wants
- #ConsentCulture be of import and be for sex and for nonsexual thing as well
- practice respect of body and bodily autonomy for self and other
- celebrate joy of life!
more concrete example:
- someone say "not can do task"? you not push. task maybe important for cause, but friend/comrade IS cause!
- someone upset, sad, have strong emotion, dissociate, leave suddenly? offer help if can guess what is needed, go after person for offer support, ask how help and then do
- make sure everyone (include you!) have food and rest and check in regular, make habit of check in: Need of body?
- have snack on table in in-person meeting or living space
- be connect to body of self and other (if consent) and be good friends with. learn and practice communicate with own body and other (if/when wanted)
- learn own body signal for distress or need or enjoy, learn friend signal, learn what different stim of autistic friend mean
- make space accessible, ask of accessibility need, normalise talk about, respect conflicting needs and invite creativity for find way of handle
- learn listen to instinct/ gut feeling/ vibes! this very important and no substitute for, because abuser good at twist word, like (fascist/enabling) politician
- if person give bad vibe, or you notice feel worse in body or mind if person around? GET AWAY from person, no matter who, even mother. catch breath. reflect. talk with trusted friend if possible. then decide if still be let bad vibe person in life.
- support self and other for cut contact with abuser, even if parent, and unlearn feeling of obligation to abuser (is same as unlearn loyalty to unjust government)
- listen to vibe be process of learn. bring feeling of vibes together with other sense, with feeling of body, with emotion, with knowledge and logic and with what other ppl know. make choice base on all those
- be you and obey only own value, not any authority you not trust. support other in do same, even if they be wrong, even if they question YOU. you stand by own opinion but respect friend have other view
- admit mistake and learn and grow and support other do same
- no shame to make friend change, no shame to shut down or cut off friend from group - goal be reconnection (unless it not friend but abuser)
- celebrate weirdness, craziness, difference, surprises in how people are or feel or act
- value fun, celebration, joy, light heartedness and childishness
