A reminder I keep needing: being likable isn’t about being agreeable—it’s about being grounded.
This piece nails the quiet power of showing up with less control, less performance, and more presence.
In need of serious advice. How do you get over the memory of an ex?
It's been exactly 2 decades since our relationship. Today's his birthday.
We have no way of contacting each other. He might not even be alive anymore. Usually he appears in my dreams and thoughts when I least expect it. I don't have any photos of him, just memories.
It feels like I'm being haunted.
Serious advice will be sincerely appreciated. Snark & insults will be ignored or blocked.
I must admit I'm surprised. I came across some #statistics outlining there are more gay #men than #women in the #UK.
Almost twice as many in fact, and even adding in #bisexuality it still tilts that way.
Why am I surprised? Well it's simply because it doesn't match my experience.
Over my six decades, I've met dozens of women who were in same-sex #relationships but only four or five men.
I can think of many possible reasons for the discrepancy, but it still feels wrong.
It's very hard to discount your own #experience as atypical. We're hardwired to think we're a representative sample 
I thought I might have to mace a dude in the parking lot a few minutes ago.
My girlfriend and I were about to get in our car (after buying a bunch of ice cream for my cramps), and I overheard some guy talk-yelling. I scanned around and saw him across the lot, yelling into the driver's side of a small SUV. I watched for a few seconds, then decided to go make sure he wasn't cornering some woman.
So my girlfriend and I walk over and stand a little ways from his vehicle, watching him heatedly accuse what was probably his girlfriend of cheating. He glanced at us a couple times, and I kept waiting for him to turn his anger my direction, but he dropped the keys in the car and stormed off.
We walked over and checked on the woman, who smiled in that very 
This was obviously an abusive relationship and she was used to deflecting inquiries about it.
I really wish I could have actually done something other than make sure he didn't escalate, but I know as soon as we left he was probably right back at her.
I hope she gets out of there.
You can:
Hold space for their struggles without taking them on as your own
Set kind but firm boundaries (this is love, too)
Protect your own mental health - it's not selfish
Find the line between support and self-preservation
Full guide for navigating this with care: bit.ly/4iqgmNE
If you feel unsafe in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800.799.SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788 #mentalhealth #intimatepartnerviolence #anger #relationships #domesticviolence #postpartum
The Let Them Theory is going viral. What do psychologists make of it?
By Kellie Scott
The Let Them Theory from motivational speaker and author Mel Robbins is about letting go of the need to control others and instead focusing on your reactions. We asked three psychologists what they make of it.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-19/what-psychologists-think-of-the-let-them-theory/105144954
https://www.europesays.com/2005057/ Government proposes compulsory consent education in New Zealand schools #compulsory #consent #considering #education #Government #in #including #make #new #NewZealand #proposals #proposes #relationships #schools #sexuality #shakeup #taught #training #zealand
Why a break-up was the making of me
After a 12-year relationship ended, I questioned my femininity. But being out of that bubble showed me that being a woman doesn't have to look a certain way.
Interesting this story from CNN. A lady spends whole year dating only far-right men from the manosphere.
”They are some of the most insecure people.
They don’t know who they are and lack the ways to figure it out.”
”One guy took me to a political meeting. It was supposed to be a political meeting, but almost exclusively they spent the time talking about relationship problems.”
https://youtube.com/watch?v=92iotrec96g
#farright #manosphere #journalism #relationships
Low libido? It’s rarely about attraction.
The real culprits might surprise you:
I resisted these truths for years—until my therapist shared 3 fixes that actually work (no "just relax" nonsense).
Boost if this resonates! #WomensHealth #Relationships #MentalHealth
If I feel lonely and don’t have friends or a girlfriend or wife, then that means I need to earn MYR and acquire all of them using MYR. Fair trade.
The betrayals of trust mount up, driving a wedge into the relationship.
—Bandy X. Lee et al., The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump
#relationships #trust
Healthy relationships require partners who are calm, thoughtful, and deliberate, not fearful and reactive. Fear-driven behaviors and a lack of insight are exactly the opposite of what we should expect of a safe, dependable partner or a leader.
—Bandy X. Lee et al., The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump: 37 Psychiatrists and Mental Health Experts Assess a President
#relationships #partners #leaders #leadership
Why novel The Sex Lives of Married Women made its author nervous
By Vyshnavee Wijekumar
When Saman Shad sat down to write her latest novel, she came up against several challenges. Not least of them was how to find time to write amid the chaos of having a small family.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-13/saman-shad-latest-novel-sex-lives-of-married-women/105159224
Reconcilable Differences Connecting in a Disconnected World by Dawna Markova, 2017
A revolutionary way to move beyond biases and blind spots to build deeper rapport between friends, lovers, relatives, and colleagues, from the expert author team behind Collaborative Intelligence.
@bookstodon
#books
#nonfiction
#SelfHelp
#relationships
#communication
In my defense, when she said she was a Cancer, I thought she was talking about her Zodiac sign 
From the Inked Grimoire:
Full Moon in Libra – April 12, 2025
This Full Moon will illuminate opportunities for collaboration and challenges in our relationships because Libra is the sign of relationships.
https://www.inkedgoddesscreations.com/blogs/the-inked-grimoire/full-moon-in-libra-april-12-2025
#FullMoon #Libra #Astrology #MoonMagick #ShadowWork #Balance #SelfCare #Relationships #PinkFullMoon #Magick
